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Life Lessons for Elul – A Hedge Against the Toxicity of Today’s American Politics and War

14 Sunday Sep 2025

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bible, Faith, god, Israel, jesus

Soren Kierkegaard said: “It is perfectly true, as philosophers say, that life must be understood backwards. But they forget the other proposition, that it must be lived forwards.”

Though we’re always living forward, the life lessons we learn can help to shape our future. Since this is the season of self-examination leading to the High Holidays, I offer a list of 32 life lessons I’ve learned – there are others, but the number 32 is significant in Jewish mystical tradition. It equals the 22 letters of the Hebrew א-ב (aleph-bet) plus the 10 “words” of the covenant (aka 10 Commandments), and is the number equivalent for the Hebrew word לב (heart – lev: lamed – bet) which the mystics teach are the number of pathways to God.

I offer the following as a hedge against the toxicity in today’s American political environment, the Hamas-Israel war, and the humanitarian catastrophe in Gaza in these days leading to the High Holidays. Some of the following I borrowed 15-20 years ago, gratefully, from a then 90 year-old lady named Regina Brett that were published in the Plain Dealer from Cleveland, Ohio (hers are in italics).

They’re not necessarily a way to God, but a means to a healthier, wiser, and more sacred way of living, at least as I’ve come to believe in them.

  1. God gave us life and our natural abilities only – everything else is either up to us or a result of dumb luck.
  2. Life isn’t always fair, but it’s still good.
  3. Life is short, so cut your losses early.
  4. Begin planning for retirement as a teen by developing your passions and interests, for they will sustain you when you get old.
  5. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up your present.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument, so at a certain point stop arguing.
  7. Love your spouse/partner, children and grandchildren above all other people and things. If you aren’t married or do not have children, nurture the special friendships in your life.
  8. Don’t compare your life to anyone else’s as you have no idea what their journey has been all about.
  9. If you can’t publish what you want to say or do on the front page of The New York Times because doing so would be slanderous of someone else or less than dignified, don’t say or do or post it anywhere, including on social media.
  10. Try not to speak ill of anyone, but if you must, do so only with trusted family and friends and then only so as to understand better how to cope with people like that.
  11. Don’t procrastinate to see doctors. It may save your life (note: it saved mine).
  12. Carpe diem. Take pleasure in this day and do what inspires you for we don’t know what tomorrow will bring.
  13. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  14. Breathe deeply as it calms the body, mind, heart, and soul.
  15. Take your shoes off whenever possible as studies indicate that doing so will prolong your life.
  16. Too much alcohol and drugs (in fact – any amount of alcohol and drugs) dull the mind and loosen the lips compelling us to say things we may mean but don’t want said and to say things we may not mean at all.
  17. Get a dog or a cat for the love for and from such a creature is unlike anything else we will ever know.
  18. Over prepare, and then go with the flow.
  19. It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it.
  20. Speak the truth but only when you know you can be effective and only if it doesn’t cause another person unnecessary harm or hurt. Otherwise, be quiet.
  21. Stand up to bullies wherever they are and whenever you encounter them, personally and in work, organizational and political life.
  22. Time does heal almost everything.
  23. Don’t fear or resist change for it is natural, necessary, and an opportunity for growth.
  24. Don’t envy other people’s talent, job, wealth, circumstances or life – you likely already have everything you need.
  25. Love isn’t just a matter of the heart – it requires concrete acts of altruism (no quid pro quo) in support of others.
  26. Learn Torah, read great literature, view great art, and listen to great music as often as you can – they will enrich, change, and enhance your life and will inspire you (hopefully) to do what you might never choose to do otherwise.
  27. Support the State of Israel as the democracy and Jewish State that it is regardless of its imperfections and corruptions, for Israel remains the best hope for the Jewish people to create a utopia worthy of the ethics of the Biblical prophets, the compassionate teachings in rabbinic and modern writings, and the vision as articulated in Israel’s Declaration of Independence (see https://avalon.law.yale.edu/20th_century/israel.asp).
  28. Be modest.
  29. Be forgiving.
  30. Be kind.
  31. Be generous.
  32. Be grateful.

10 Suggestions for Elul

07 Sunday Sep 2025

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health, meditation, mental-health, mindfulness, wellness

This Hebrew month of Elul is the “get ready” month before the High Holidays commence, this year on the evening of September 23. It can be a period of corrective generally and specifically in these challenging times. The more we do in advance of the holidays, the more we can benefit during that most intensive period of introspection that the upcoming “Days of Awe” offer us.

A number of years ago, ala David Letterman, I offered to my congregation 10 suggestions in descending order (but not necessarily in importance) to help us in our Elul process of teshuvah (loosely translated “repentance”) leading up to the High Holydays. I reread them this week, and thought to offer them again, with adjustments.

#10 – Break your daily routine in some small way. Identify one bad habit you want to break in this next year (don’t try and do more than one because habits are hard to break, and if we’re successful in doing one, we will feel satisfied and a true sense of agency). If you find yourself, for example, being critical of everyone around you, stop yourself, at least some of the time and think of their good qualities. If you are holding onto anger, resentment, and hurt because of something someone did to you once upon a time, work hard to just let it go. If your words are overly coarse and you find yourself too often resorting to explosions of expletives, language you would never say in front of a child or your mother, strive to stop using it.

#9 – Take your shoes off the first chance you get and at every opportunity. Remember what God told Moses? “Remove your sandals from your feet for the place on which you are standing is holy ground.” (Exodus 3:5) A study reported years ago in USA Today revealed that those who habitually kick off their shoes under the dining-room table, desk or pew tend to live three years longer than the average American. Think of the feet as a metaphor for the soul. Feet bound for too long begin to stink. Cloistered souls not allowed the light of consciousness pick up spiritual sludge and keep the divine light from shining.

#8 – Meditate – According to the American Institute on Stress, 75-90% of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress-related complaints. Meditation is nothing more than a means to become more aware and conscious of ourselves and our environment. A meditative state can be achieved at any time during the day, when listening to or making music, looking at or creating fine art, reading or writing a book or poetry, exercising, taking a walk, or sitting still. Meditation trains us in how to listen better to what is happening within and around us, how to be present and less distracted with our loved ones, to identify our deeper truths and thereby be more honest, straightforward and, hopefully, more kind.

#7 – Exercise each day – Impose upon yourself the discipline to walk, swim, ride a bicycle, do a workout, Tai-chi, Yoga, or Pilates, and keep your body toned. Whenever possible, don’t take elevators or escalators. Walk the stairs. When looking for a place to park, don’t take the closest space to your destination. Park at the far end of a parking lot and force yourself to walk the extra distance. The number of calories we burn in these simple acts will result in the loss of pounds over the course of a year (assuming you eat less too). It will also lower your heart rate, reduce your blood pressure, create a healthier physique, and enable us to feel a greater sense of well-being.

#6 – Do one “wild” thing each day, such as: 

  • Eat ice cream instead of frozen yogurt. 
  • Don’t hesitate to eat chocolate anything.
  • Leave your checking account un-reconciled – but after a couple of weeks, reconcile it or you’ll get into trouble.
  • Buy a loved one a gift for no good reason at unexpected times.
  • Laugh more.
  • Stretch every morning, at your desk and everywhere in the middle of the day.
  • Sing in the shower.
  • Scream in your car.
  • Talk to yourself in public and don’t worry that someone may tag you as deranged.
  • Say hello and smile at a stranger.
  • Be kind for no reason. 
  • Let the guy cut in front of you in traffic, and if you are walking and a driver let’s you pass in front of their car, wave a thank you as you pass by.
  • Pet a dog (or cat) and look into its eyes – it is as sweet a sight as you are ever likely to see.
  • Ride a horse.
  • Play golf, tennis anything!
  • Take a wave or walk into a beautiful natural setting.

#5 – Learn to say “No” more often, especially when you are feeling overtaxed and exhausted. As Thoreau said – “Simplify, simplify, simplify” your life and spend more time doing the things that feed your soul, give you spiritual strength and help you feel closer to the people you love. Read great literature. Find the great teachers who open the soul and heart. Do more mitzvot that require pure motives and accentuate kindness, and do not do anything thinking that you will benefit by something in return. Do it lishma – for its own sake.

#4 – Give tzedakah and do acts of gemilut chassadim (Loving Kindness) to every beggar on the street or at freeway off-ramps and don’t question their motives or worthiness. Visit or call someone who is ill or alone. Physically touch and hug an elderly person who might not have been touched in a very long while. Be kind and generous at all times.

#3 – Strengthen a friendship with someone you’ve been meaning to get to know better – don’t stop yourself from expressing your gratitude to the people you care about – say it to them out loud and often whenever you feel so moved.

#2 – Make a commitment to challenge your mind, especially if you are older – learn a language, do puzzles, fill out cross-word puzzles, learn to play a musical instrument, read about something you have wanted to learn and understand but never had the time before.

#1 – Read great Jewish literature and deepen your understanding of at least one great Jewish book, writer or scholar, such as: The Hebrew Bible; Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel; Lord Rabbi Jonathan Sacks. While you are at it, avoid social media as much as is reasonable.

I wish you well in fulfilling one or more of the above. May it be time well spent as together we enter the New Year with the goal of bringing greater kindness and wholeness (Heb: shleimut) into the world. 

L’shanah tovah to you all!

“Zohran Mamdani Has Many Virtues. But He’s Also a Virulent, Relentless Hater of Israel” – by Rabbi Eric Yoffie    

04 Thursday Sep 2025

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Introductory Note: I am not a New Yorker, but I have been waiting for someone to express the truth about NY’s Democratic mayoral candidate Zohran Mamdani’s true positions about Israel and why his hostility to the State of Israel is so upsetting to me.

My friend and the former President of the Union for Reform Judaism, Rabbi Eric Yoffie, is as astute an observer and moral voice of American Jewish life and Israel as there is in the American Jewish community. He writes semi-frequently on pressing issues facing world Jewry in Israel’s newspaper Haaretz. The following piece appeared today, and I thank Eric for writing it. It ought to be read by every Jewish New Yorker before the election. If you have Jewish friends in New York, please share this with them.            

Sept. 4, 2025

Before and after the election, my plea to the Jewish citizens of New York City is: Use mayoral candidate Zohran Mamdani’s Democratic Party primary victory to educate people about Israel.

Zohran Mamdani, the Democratic nominee for New York City mayor, is charming, attractive, bright and a natural politician. Energetic, enormously talented and only thirty-three years old, in the Democratic primary he ran a brilliant campaign.

Is Mamdani too good to be true? Unfortunately, he is.

Despite his many virtues, this attractive, articulate man, with the popular touch and Trumpian feel for politics, is a virulent, relentless anti-Zionist.

Like most New Yorkers, I was profoundly impressed by Mamdani and by his remarkable ability to reach voters of different age groups and ethnicities. I was impressed too by his message: He did not offer platitudes or complicated position papers, but hammered home the point that the cost of living is killing ordinary people. Former New York Governor Andrew Cuomo and his other establishment rivals never had a chance; coming across as stodgy and out-of-touch, they lost to their dynamic younger rival by double digits.

But his beliefs about Israel are clear. Mamdani has expressed them repeatedly, and without equivocation. From his earliest days as a political activist as a student at Bowdoin College, he has declined to say that Israel has a right to exist as a Jewish state. He held this view on the day of the deadly massacres of October 7, and held it just as strongly on October 8.

When he became a candidate for mayor of New York, a city with 1.5 million Jews, Mamdani was obligated to spell out specifically how he would deal with Israel issues. His refusal during the Democratic primary to condemn the use of the phrase “globalize the intifada” drew the most attention. He claimed that the term did no more than express solidarity with the Palestinians, but many Democrats and others, and certainly many Jews, rightly insisted that what it meant was “kill the Jews.”

Responding to the pressure, Mamdani said that he would discourage the use of the phrase but would not denounce it, a tweak that satisfied few of his critics. If the phrase was offensive, why not condemn it outright?

His hostility to Israel was expressed in many other ways as well. He indicated that as mayor, he would implement some form of boycott against Israel, and has advocated an academic boycott of Israel’s universities, consistent with his support of the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement. He promised not to visit Israel if elected mayor, breaking a longstanding precedent.

And how have the Jews of New York responded to Mamdani’s statements and threats?

To the surprise of many, most have not seemed overly concerned, or at least less concerned than one might expect. The reasons for this are not entirely clear.

One possibility is that most of New York’s 700,000 Jewish voters, like most other New Yorkers, think it is a foregone conclusion that Mamdani will win, and therefore a “wait-and-see” approach may make sense. After all, his major competitors are New York’s corrupt current mayor, a no-name Republican and a former Democratic governor of New York who has lots of baggage and barely seems to want the job. It would take a near miracle for any of them to beat Mamdani.

Another possibility is that the majority of Jewish New Yorkers – myself included – tend to be left-leaning in their politics, and therefore are sympathetic to Mamdani’s progressive views on domestic politics. It is these issues that have dominated the public discussion until now.

To be sure, attempts have been made to draw away Jewish support from Mamdani by painting him as a domestic radical, if not a raving socialist lunatic. Most Jews are not radicals, and would not support Mamdani if they saw him as the dangerous extremist that his opponents claim he is. Despite what Republicans say, New Yorkers are not clamoring for Lenin; in an economy made unstable by Trump’s tariffs, what they want is to get ahead and support their families, and Mamdani is promising to move them in that direction.

In short, Mamdani is an attractive candidate with an attractive platform. And while Jewish leaders have tried to raise the alarm about his Israel views, it has been difficult, in the quiet summer months to generate interest and concern among the broader Jewish community about this candidate’s relationship to Israel.

This issue is even more fraught in the current moment, as it appeals strongly to young Jews in particular, many of whom are justifiably furious at Israel’s actions in Gaza. These same young Jews often argue that as mayor Mamdani will have no foreign policy role. They therefore resent any effort to criticize their candidate for his Israel views. “Why are we even talking about this?” is a question that is often heard. “This race is about New York, not Israel.”

Are we to conclude from all of this that Mamdani will pay no price for his opposition to a Jewish state?

It is hard to say. There is no denying that Jewish support for Israel has declined as the war in Gaza drags on and the death toll of innocents grows. New York Jews are angry at Israel, furious about Gaza and sickened by the Kahanists who sit in Israel’s cabinet. And we should remember that despite his outspokenness on Israel, Mamdani won a decisive victory in the Democratic primary.

Nonetheless, I believe that in the two months that remain before the general election, as the election heats up and Mamdani’s views are subjected to far more intensive scrutiny, the dynamics of the race will change.

Support for Israel has declined, but it has hardly disappeared, and Jewish voters who have not been paying attention to the mayoral race – and that is the majority – will begin listening to what the candidates have to say. And I am betting that when they do, they will not like at all what they hear from Mamdani.

Mamdani, in my view, is playing an ugly little game with Jewish voters. In the Gaza era, presided over by Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, it is not a problem to be a critic of Israel. Critics are everywhere, particularly in the Democratic Party, and even Israel’s most stalwart supporters are calling for more “balance” in America’s approach to the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Some of Mamdani’s supporters, taking advantage of the growing debate, are slyly suggesting that he is simply another critic among many amid the ongoing war.

If this were true, of course, there would be little or no controversy. If Mamdani were promoting some form of a two-state solution, I would be voting for him myself.

But Mamdani is not a critic of Israel, he is a hater of Israel. Despite some very minor rhetorical adjustments, he remains what he has always been, an opponent of a Jewish state. His toxic disdain for Israel puts him so far out of the mainstream of the Jewish community that it will not be easy for Jews with even minimal attachment to Israel to support him. And while some will, given the alternatives, they will do so with reluctance and concern.

It is also true that Mamdani has said not a word about Islam’s miserable record in promoting both democracy and religious pluralism. Israel, where 20 percent of its citizens are non-Jews has a better than average record in that regard. Since Mamdani opposes the Jewish character of Israel, he should have the decency to speak up about Pakistan and other countries in the Muslim world that are neither democratic nor pluralistic.

What should Jews do in this election? I don’t tell people how to vote, and as I have indicated, I believe it is almost certain that Mamdani will be elected.

But both before and after the election, my plea to the Jewish citizens of New York City is: educate, educate, educate. Use Mr. Mamdani’s primary victory as an occasion to educate the people of New York about Israel.

This means making it clear that thoughtful criticism of Israel at this difficult moment is both welcome and necessary, and will be encouraged from all candidates. This means offering our own criticism, and calling for a resumption of diplomacy and an end to the war in Gaza. This means demanding that Mamdani stop the word games and be honest, finally, about what he really expects Israel to be and do.

And this means saying to the citizens of New York and the people of the world that there must be a Jewish state, and that saying there should not be a Jewish state is an act of hostility against the Jewish community and Jews everywhere.

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